I’ve never liked the secret FB meme approach to advocacy. Susan Niebur taught me that the playful nature of standing up for breast cancer was, in fact, a big drag on those battling it. Posting the color of your bra with no explanation is confounding for some, but worse, for the women who no longer have breasts or who don’t shop in a sea of blush colored lace it’s almost mean-spirited. Usually, I just ignored the private message invites and then moved along. When #MeToo started* I was torn. I began seeing the stark updates: #MeToo I nodded my head, remembering the texts and DMs over the years from many of these women. We’d shared the weight of the Cosby story and…