Holidays bring out the ache in even the oldest wounds, don’t they? I actually love twitter and facebook for that, they remind us through bite sized exclaims and updates that we all hurt. I’ve seen people talking about Christmas cries, aided by The Family Stone and Love Actually, and others talking about confronting estrangement, again. Before you know it your own worries are benched as you reach out to someone to day, “Eventually it will be more ok than it is today.” I think we tend to get really angry at ourselves for not feeling all-consuming gratitude and goodwill during the holidays. How shallow? How weak? Just get over it! No, how normal! The truth is with a time so chock full of expectation and…