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Posted on February 28, 2012

I don’t think I’d be making myself out as being terribly unique if I shared that I struggle with abusive behavior. We all do, right? No one likes people who are mean, duplicitous or unpredictable. It’s tough to know when to let it roll off your back and when to stand your ground. Which idiot has a gun in their glove box, what response will elicit a physical response? I am struggling because I can’t see this person, I can’t protect the person being hurt and honestly, for the life of me, I can’t figure out how the hell to cope with a 7 year old telling my daughter he’ll kill her if she tells on him. I wrote to the teacher* and have…

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Posted on February 20, 2012

This was last week: A harried just-before-closing trip to the pediatrician revealed that it was just a cold. I’ll be honest, there is no “just a cold” with your last baby, even though she isn’t really a baby anymore. There is no “just a cold” when the margins are so whisper thing at home and work. There is no “just a cold” when the coughing in the night brings gagging, weeping and more durations of sleep measured in minutes rather than hours. I left feeling sheepish, angry and filled with a relief that made tears threaten. 48 hours later we bundled up for a play date with friends unafraid of “just a cold,” later the same day the grandparents arrived; both events had us…

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Poetry of Love

Posted on February 14, 2012

It’s a day of clichés, melancholy and forgetfulness. I’m pretty ambivalent about Valentine’s Day, but if it gives us a chance to consider love, then I tip to the side of liking it. Here are a few things I’ve learned over the last few years. Love is working at seeing eye to eye. Love is taking the time to surprise. Love is getting tangled up in each other. Love is remembering to touch. Love is knowing and adoring every part of a person. Love is weathering what may come. Love is sharing. Love is fostering hope. Love is telling the truth. Love is confidence. Love is diving in. Love is working hard at a kiss. Types of kisses with Finley(video) Love is…

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Looking Back

Posted on February 12, 2012

I’ve been not wanting to get sucked into the fray, whether it’s politics, celebrity death or social media missteps. It got me to thinking that what really matters is what is closer to home. I can’t influence any of the other things unless I start at home. Am I being kind? Am I being honest? Is the direction I am steering correct? Are things that shouldn’t matter distracting me? On a lark I looked back a year, a year to the date to be exact. The lesson I was learning then is a priceless one for me to re-embrace and share now, as I know so many other people who are struggling. Let’s try and be tender ourselves so that we might be better…

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