The moment they put Briar in my arms on that September morning I realized that I would never see anything the same. Watching her nurse, take her first bite of cereal, the expressions on her face as she felt spring rain, snow, and the fur of a kitten—I was riveted. I still am, but for the first time I am truly aware of how much she is watching me. Please come find me at Scary Mommy today, where I am sharing a moment when Briar and I locked eyes and really talked about what we saw. As is her style, she taught me so much about shifting the microscope.